No Room For Pacaran

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       Nowdays, pacaran is common thing happened in Indonesia. We will find it when we go outside of our house. We go to the square, many people do pacaran. We go to the restaurant, there will be people who doing pacaran. They have lunch, have dinner or even do homework together with their couple. We go to the tourism place, for instance: mount, beach, swimming pool and suchlike. We obviously find people do pacaran there. Even in front of the mousque, we will find people who pacaran. That's why the existence of pacaran itself is considered as a common thing in Indonesia. Cause pacaran today is everywhere. 
         Pacaran is a love relationship which is out of marriage. Everyone can do it, even they are still blue. Elementary school students for example, many of them are doing pacaran especially they who starting the age of puberty. Usually students at the range of 10-12 years old (fifth to sixth grade). They know pacaran very well cause they are influenced by television and social media in their phone. Dude, it is not a weird thing anymore seeing children do pacaran in Indonesia. Nobody forbid them to do that. In fact, you who don't do pacaran will be said as abnormal person.
        Many things that encourages Indonesian to do pacaran. First, they are afraid of will be said single. In Indonesia we called as jomblo. Jomblo is a thing that many Indonesian don't want. Cause jomblo means we don't have couple. Unlike many people in their surrounding. When they see people who do pacaran, there is always a shadow in mind to have pacar (boyfriend or girlfriend). So that they keep looking for pacar all day long. They need a place to share a love with someone. Even their pacar is not good looking, they still accept him/her. The most important thing, they have pacar. 
        If we try to analyze deeply about the effect of pacaran, we will avoid it. They who pacaran don't understand that what they are doing can raise stress, traumatic, or suchlike. What they think is only fun. Even they don't understand what love is. Today, they who do pacaran is the one who ever did it before. They know very well how to approach girl/boy. Cause they experienced. Usually they look for pacar through mobile phone. Everday they  chat somethings that are not really important to be asked such as "have you eaten?", "What are you doing", "sorry I overslept" and many others. These are their strategy to get attention from someone they like. They never ask "how many juz have you had read?", "Did you do tahajud prayer yesterday", "how many books have you read today" never. 
       They don't need long time to get pacar. The principle is brave, want, and able. Someone who already have these principles, they will easly get pacar, trust me. Cause pacar is not talking about love, instead talking about brave, want, and able like I said before. First is brave, means you are not afraid of your God. If you are not afraid of your God, sin is like reward in your eyes. Besides, you are brave taking decision to pacaran without telling your parents. If you permit to your parents, there is big possibility they will forbid you. Next, you are brave means you are confident to do pacaran even it is not allowed in your religion. Want means you want him or her to be your pacar without love base, instead of wanting. The desire plays a role here to influence you. The last, able means you know exactly how the way to pacaran. They are like dating, buy her or him mobile phone, and many others. Experience is needed here. 
       I have been doing dakwah about prohibition of pacaran during two years.  Exactly is since two years ago. I am giving a lecture about the negative impact in WhatsApp group and in the school. My target here is children and teenagers. From here, I learn all of things about pacaran. Apparently pacaran is nothing. It is stupidity which is repeated continuously. Having love relationship, then breaking up, after that having that fucking relationship again and again without knowing the full stop. This is the real stupidity ever. If they are really love, the won't break up easly. In this case, I insist pacaran should be abandoned. 
       Students who do pacaran, they won't focus on their lesson in the school. They keep thinking about their pacar (girl friend/boyfriend). So that here, the students become lazy and their scores are not good. They are not smart then. Then, if they are not smart, their behavior is not good as well. They disobey to the God, parents, and teacher. They create the rule by him or her self. Finally, they destroy their future slowly. 
        People who do pacaran is the one who did pacaran before. And they who did it, will be difficult to stop it. I am not sure people who did pacaran will stop pacaran. Surely they will continue it with another person. Now is pacaran with A, after breaking up, they become jomblo. Then they are jomblo and hunting pacar. It keep moving on till they pacaran with another person. A is past, now is B, and so on. This becomes the cycle of pacaran. 
         For all people who never do pacaran, don't ever try it. Cause when you try it, you can stop doing pacaran again. When you choose to stop pacaran, the temptation is so big. Seeing other people pacaran in square, absolutely it will make you want to have pacar as well, trust me. Cause you have felt it before, you know the formula and the sensation of pacaran. It is so nice having pacar, right? Therefore I ask you to abonden pacaran, no matter what. Make your self believe that pacaran is not the only way to get the happines. Keep on your mind that no room for pacaran. 
        

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